Just wanted to say how nice it is to see someone trying to help others out of bad situations. Your a breath of fresh air amid the overwhelming negativity I've seen on Tumblr. I get tired of the suicidal, depressed, angry, victimized thoughts put out there. It is nice to see someone combating these with positive approaches to violence and feelings of worthlessness. Keep it up!
Oh, I can be negative and down and ill-thinking like many, but I have a soft spot for domestic violence.
I abused my significant other for a little under a year because I was abused as a child. The cycle of abuse will not end if someone does not actively break it. I have been on both ends of domestic violence, and it is the worst heartache imaginable.
Hii, just to the lovely girl on anon, you are NOT a waste if space- if he"s making you feel like that he"s not worth it, you have the right to feel safe, to be cared for and loved. And no one on this earth is a waste of space, least of all you beautiful :)
Publishing this for the anon. Feel better, sweetie! We are all here for you.
I'm sixteen, not to young really, he's sixteen as well but he's wy stronger than me! Well its sorta both, he does it as a joke, then i say to him stop but he won't, he thinks its all a game, i've tried speaking to him, he laughs it off..but i couldn't leave him, he's sometimes so good to me, he calls me beautiful, and then changes. I think its my faut..
It is not a game. Your safety is not fluid. It must be solid and absolute.
Try speaking more forcefully! You’re a strong, independent woman and should assert yourself like one. This is not at all your fault. He is being insensitive and mean. One-sided abuse is never the victim’s fault.
Ok, so i really like this boy. I think im in love for the first time, we are together, but its like we arent? He hits me as a joke like but it hurts and i tell him to stop but he doesnt, i woke up with a massive bruise from him the other day, he doesnt realise what hes doing to me, but i love him?!:(
Oh, sweetie—-you sound so young! I think you should look at the relationship objectively. Is the hitting violent, or is it playful? You need to sit him down and make your feelings on the matter clear. He may just not know what is tolerable to you, what strays from the territory of goofing around to domestic violence. We think the lines are crystal clear, but men are thick. He should not be treating you poorly or disrespecting you, even if what he is doing is not considered abuse.
If you feel bodily harm will come from speaking with him about it, then you certainly need to remove yourself from that situation and that relationship. His hands on you are not okay.